Vulnerable to Shame

  1. I find myself getting irritated with my children in their lack of academic preparedness or athletic response in a game (granted sometimes this is just a teenager!). However, I can feel myself stop, breathe, and say OHHHH there is my own shame. I have always felt that I had to excel at everything. Breathe, let it go, this is their journey of life, not yours, and success comes through the process not the accomplishment of the activity.
  2. I find myself looking at another person that is “further” in life than me and feeling like I will never attain what they’ve accomplished. Oh hold up!!! That’s right!!! I am vulnerable to not being enough and feeling shame. Then I can breathe, stop myself and say “OHHHH that’s shame”! We are all on our own journey in life, it’s not a competition and life NEVER gets tied up with a perfect red bow.
  3. I find myself constantly thinking to myself, am I doing enough in parenting, in work, in loving my partner? OHHH wait hold up! I can stop and breathe and say no need to judge yourself (because the shame would be too much if I wasn’t enough in one of these areas). I am enough as I am. And I don’t need to prove myself in any other way, I just need to love those around me and show up as I am.

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